This morning, as I was scrolling through my Facebook feed, I noticed how many of my friends seemed so happy in their relationships. Some adopted a dog together, another engaged or simply enjoying a meal together. Ugh. That loneliness sinks in, the feeling that something must be wrong with me if I’m still single after all this time.
Then I realized: I just returned from an epic adventure in Iceland. Why should I discredit the amazing time I had? Would I have had the same experiences had I traveled with a boyfriend? Would I have even traveled at all? I find myself questioning which is more important: travel or love?
I’ve been completely independent for nearly 4 years and that’s a long time without a Valentine, someone to kiss under the misletoe, or even having someone to just talk about our day together. It’s sad, right?
In less than two years, I’ve been to three unique countries. I went back to school. I worked at some pretty great jobs. Hell, I even had drinks with celebrities on more than one occasion. What do I have to complain about? I’m seeing the world and creating some incredible memories. Sure, it’s lonely, but shouldn’t I be focused more on my own happiness, rather than someone elses? I’m in my mid-twenties and having the time of my life! Now is the time to be a little selfish and travel the world.
Now, this doesn’t mean that I’ve given up on the notion of love. Hellllll no! I’d love to find someone who can make me laugh and do crazy things with, but I’m not making that my main priority. I’m focused on me right now and if someone should come along and contribute to my happiness, I’m sure I’ll be over the moon, but for now, I’m happy with my passport being my significant other.
So, maybe my special someone is out there; he could be sipping an espresso in Paris or backpacking through Nepal; maybe he’s just sitting at home doing absolutely nothing. If we meet, great, but if not…then I’m fine traveling the world on my own. At the end of the day, life is better lived to the fullest.
To the guy who never texted me back: Thank you. You showed me that life is not worth waiting for your response, life is about living in the moment and doing the most of my time on this Earth.
If you had to choose between love and travel, where would you go?